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whats is with Indian Women and sex?

Recently I was talking to a girl and casually mentioned something about sex and guess what happened? she looked at me like i was from Mars or some entirely diffrent planet. Fortunately she wasnt very close to me cause if she was she would have probably forced me to go on my knees and beg to the great lord for mercy!

I mean seriuosly dont understand this! do most women dont know about sex or just act ignorant about it or do they think it turns men on if they act ignorant?

We are in a world where it is an accepted fact that "even the queen has 2 legs" then why this taboo? It is understandable to feel uncomfortable talking abt sex to parents but to friends i think should be totally fine. It is probably because of this ignorance or the attitude to not discuss abt it that the number of sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise in India. On one side there is westernization and sexual liberation happening is most major cities in India and on the other side there is this attitude soo many ppl have, both put togeather i think is leading to an environment where ppl do have sex but are too shy/shameful to admit it!

Root cause analysis
From the knowledge I have of having interacted with Americans (of approximately my age) whom we can consider much more sexually liberated than us, I understand that they not only feel comfortable talking about sex but also are not ashamed to say "they have done it". So why are Indians shy to admit it?

The logical answer to that question would be that our Indian society in general does not accept leave alone appreciate pre-marital sex. However here in the United States sex is accepted as a part of life. married or not a girl and a guy when in a relationship are considered to have sex. period. no cuss no fuss!! A girl and a guy are still expected to be "chaste" during their wedding. Its been that way in India ever since the instituition called marriage was found! I am not sure when that was but sometime before Christ was born would be a good guess!
Frankly speaking it was that way in the United States too until the last few decades.

So why is that the people in the United states changed their attitudes about sex but where as other parts of the world did not? but before we get into i was wondering Men and Women have come a long way from the time of the early man to the current situation. So it is reasonable to assume that everything men and Women do has a reason. so why is it that there evolved a "no pre-marital sex" rule?

One reason i could think of is that in the old times before contraceptives were invented/discovered it would almost be impossible to have sex with multiple partners as the chances of getting a woman pregnant was very high. It would also be difficult to say who fathered a child esp. since a new born child needed considerable care and protection as diseases were widespread and mortality rates were high. Moreover because of the seemingly different roles men and women had to play in everyday lives they were physically separated for most part of the time hence it made it almost impossible for the either sexes to meet and socialize. Another reason valid particularly for people in India is the existence of child marriage where children were married when they were less than 10. so basically the had sex when they were old enough to know what it is!

But what happened? things changed (atleast in the west) where as contraception was discovered and pppl changed their attitudes abt sex and understood that it was nothing more than a physiological need of a Human Being.

Things didnt change much in India though where still age old customs was followed How can it be? sex is the need of a prefectly normal human being. Its altogeather natural to feel an attraction for a person. how can anything that contradicts laws of nature ever be right? what about bachelors and spinsters? are they supposed to die as a virgin? Even scientifically sex brings about a lot of harmones which are good for both the body and the mind. If something is good for you why would you want to refrain from it just because of ancient customs which dont make any sense anymore?
I am not for adultery or dishonesty in a relationship. I do certainly feel that when one is in a relationship you have to be totally committed to it. What I am for is to make sexual relationship between couple acceptable independent of their marital status!!

So my advice to fellow Indians....throw out the chastity belts you have in your minds and go out and have fun..but be sure to be safe!!